I wonder what’s going through your head. Same thing I’ve wondered about all of the Equals Team for the last nine months. None of you can tell me the specifics of where I went so badly wrong as to merit the campaign of bullying and ostracisation. If you ever had any love for me at all R and A, I would ask you to GET SPECIFIC. What is it about me that has rendered me so unacceptable to four people, two of whom were close and loved for eleven years, and the other two supposed colleagues???
You have called my last email ‘factually inaccurate’ R, but you have not backed this statement up by any explanation as to exactly how. Where have I deviated from the facts? Or are you now accusing me of being a liar, as indeed you did in your rant of last February?
N, A, I have asked you to do the same thing. So far you have stuck to vague accusations of ‘abuse, bullying, harassment and aggression’, a lot of them passed indirectly to me by third parties. You also apparently believed I wanted to ‘sabotage’ your course. Once again I would like your evidence for this, based on how I was and what I said? It’s a serious accusation, like R’s, which needs backing up.
This would help my learning about self and my ability to move on from this and finally find closure. Bw, Zoe.
I’ve repeatedly asked R (by text and email – I know better than to try to speak with him on the phone) to back up his last statement about the ‘factual inaccuracies’ of my account of the domestic incident. Surprise! He seems unwilling to do so! Clearly he isn’t happy, but he doesn’t want to defend himself. He has ignored my many entreaties that he make his complaint against me in writing, whatever it is. Just like you A. He’s suddenly phobic of the written word!
Lesson for the future. For EVERYONE concerned, including me. If you will not be able to account for it down the line – um. Don’t do it? In future, take the longer view. Are you happy for your God or Higher Power or ‘people you respect and admire’ to see you behave like this? If not, then just don’t do it. Simple. Don’t put yourself in a position where you will have to spend valuable time and energy down the line, covering your backs.
I don’t honestly know about Equals, but R seems to think he can say or do pretty much anything behind closed doors. He does not seem to expect to be held to account for it. He appears unworried by the effects of karma. He never apologises. Never admits to having been wrong about anything. He doesn’t appear to think about ‘how he could have done things differently‘ (see his ‘rant’). That sauce is strictly for the goose! And I knew this was going to be problematic one day, but I never pictured this scenario.
I on the other hand, am held to account for everything. I alone have agency in his world. I alone have power. Therefore I make a cracking scapegoat for everything that goes wrong in his life. Including the Equals fiasco.
Please tell me you can see how mad this is?
Happy to account for my own stuff. Now could everyone else please just account for theirs?
Zoe, Following the discussion session that you asked Stephen to set up last week and the positive, forward looking discussion that we had begun, I do not understand what it is you want from me or Equals now.
Perhaps Stephen can continue to assist.
Regards, N
Oh dear N. I don’t understand what you don’t understand! I want to know why I have been bullied and ostracised by your organisation, two of whom were hitherto close friends!
I never read your response to my grievance, or the letter you sent prior to that. I just wasn’t in a fit state, my mental health was going down the pan. I had a breakdown in April and ended up sectioned, which in itself proved very traumatic indeed. I still prefer not to read it. I’m afraid it would be distressing.
Angela has explained nothing about why our friendship had to end over this. I am now OK about the friendship ending, but is it unreasonable to want to know why? If the answer is ‘because you didn’t love my work project as much as I did’, be honest and just say it! Clarity is what I would like. I appear to have been demonised. The behaviour of all four of you has impacted severely on my mental health. And at the end of the day, an organisation which is supposedly all about social inclusion has excluded someone. Why?
A also co-opted her partner into the bullying and mobbing free-for-all, bringing him with her to a meeting where he behaved like a hired thug, yelling at me across the table and accusing me of ‘bullying’ A. I have been accused of ‘harassment’ (the emails?), you made a complaint to the police to that effect, and A gave that meeting to understand that my texts to her were aggressive, abusive etc which they were emphatically not. In other words, she lied and manipulated her partner to turn on me (I considered him a friend up till then).
On top of all of this I was the recipient of domestic abuse by R, which he seems unwilling to admit to, even though I can get the evidence from the police if you wish. Far worse than a few bruises though is the campaign of emotional and psychological abuse by all of you!
You honestly don’t seem to know what you are doing. Why did you send an email, then recall it? What’s going on?
I don’t have a problem with written communication. You can see that. So why can none of you supposed professionals return the compliment?
Oh dear! Bw, Zoe
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